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Welcome to Gifted — Did You Know?, a weekly blog for the parents and educators raising and supporting gifted and twice-exceptional children. Each post is short, practical, and grounded in more than two decades inside classrooms, district offices, and living rooms — exploring the surprising, sometimes counter-intuitive truths about how gifted minds actually work. One week you might read about why "smart" can quietly hide real struggle; the next, why the most overwhelmed parent in the room is often the one who sees their child most clearly. Posts alternate between insights from my two books — Supporting Your Twice-Exceptional Child and A Gifted Parent's Handbook — so over time you will build a full, balanced picture of the gifted and 2e experience. If you have ever looked at your brilliant, complicated, intense child and thought there has to be more to this than anyone is telling me — you are in the right place. These children are capable, complex, and gifted first. Let's make sure they are seen.

— Adam C. Laningham, M.Ed.

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Gifted Children Don't Grow Up in a Straight Line

Did you know that giftedness doesn't look the same at four as it does at fourteen — and that parents who don't understand the stages often panic, or miss, at exactly the wrong moments? Gifted development tends to move through recognizable phases…

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Behavior Problems Might Be Unmet Potential

Did you know that some of the most consistently disruptive children in a classroom are not acting out because they are defiant — they are acting out because they are bored, frustrated, or drowning…

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How to Love a Passion to Death

Did you know that one of the fastest ways to kill a gifted child's passion is to love it too publicly, too eagerly, and too formally? The story is almost always the same…

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When Gifted Meets Questions of Identity

Did you know that LGBTQ+ identification appears more frequently among gifted youth than in the general population? This is a pattern that parents, educators, and researchers have observed for decades, and one that deserves honest, compassionate attention…

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Compliance Isn't the Same as Learning

Did you know that the quietest, most cooperative child in the classroom is sometimes the one learning the least? In most traditional schools, compliance gets rewarded automatically. A student who finishes the worksheet, follows the directions, hands it in on time, and sits still between activities is read as a successful learner, even when her actual understanding is shallow…

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Giftedness Is Everywhere — but Identification Isn't

Did you know that gifted potential is distributed equally across every racial, ethnic, cultural, and socioeconomic group — but identification is not? The research on this has been clear for decades. The talent is there, in equal proportion, in every community. What is not equal is access to identification…

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Perfectionism Can Look a Lot Like Laziness

Did you know that the child who never finishes her homework might be holding herself to a higher standard than anyone else in the room? For many gifted and twice-exceptional children, what looks from the outside like laziness, avoidance, or refusal is actually something almost opposite…

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When Your Gifted Child Falls Apart After School

Did you know that the child who kept it together all day at school — who smiled at the teacher, said please and thank you, sat through every lesson — is often the same child who walks through your front door and detonates…

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"They'll Be Fine" Is Not a Plan

Did you know that the phrase most commonly used to describe twice-exceptional children in school meetings is also the most dangerous? "He'll be fine." "She's doing okay." "Let's give it another year and see." These sentences sound reassuring. They sound like the adults in the room have decided your child is not in crisis, which feels, for a moment, like good news…

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The Lonely Genius Myth

Did you know that some of the loneliest children in any given classroom are the ones the other parents assume must have it easy? The cliché of the popular, well-adjusted, effortlessly social gifted child exists mostly in brochures. The reality, for many gifted kids, is quieter and more painful…

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Why Gifted Kids Often Don't Qualify for Help

Did you know that one of the most common experiences for parents of twice-exceptional children is being told their child doesn't qualify for anything? Not gifted services, because his grades aren't high enough. Not special education, because she's not struggling enough…

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The Volume Is Turned Up

Did you know that gifted children don't just think more deeply than other children — they feel more deeply too? One of the most consistent, research-backed features of giftedness is emotional intensity…

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A Child Can Be Years Ahead AND Years Behind

Did you know that a single child can function like an adult in one area and a much younger child in another — on the same day, in the same hour, sometimes in the same conversation? This is called asynchronous development, and it is one of the most defining features of the gifted and 2e experience. It is also one of the most confusing…

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Gifted Doesn't Always Mean Straight A's

Did you know that some of the most gifted children you will ever meet are not the ones bringing home perfect report cards? Giftedness is one of the most misunderstood words in education. Most people hear it and picture a compliant, high-achieving student who loves school and lives for gold stars. But giftedness is not a performance…

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When "Smart" Hides the Struggle

Did you know that some of the brightest children in a classroom are also the ones most likely to be misunderstood? Parents and teachers often assume that a child who reads two grade levels ahead, speaks with unusual vocabulary, or reasons like a small adult must be doing just fine. But for many gifted children, that very brilliance becomes a kind of camouflage — hiding real, significant struggles underneath.

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